
George Clooney & friend
As I’ve been working through a new novella, I’ve been giving lots of thought to what makes a hero, particularly a romantic hero. Beefcakes abs are not enough, nor is a great face (though both certainly help!) Whenever I’ve seen real guys of the too-polished, too pretty, too-gym sculpted variety, my knee-jerk reaction is too think “self-absorbed” or “trying too hard.” And not necessarily open to a relationship with a woman.
And don’t get me started on obnoxiously-alpha heroes. I find them as overbearing in a book as I do in real life… unless the author touches on this tendency with humor (an eye-rolling heroine’s good) or shows him working through the problem. Because extreme possessiveness and overprotectiveness are early warnings of an abuser, not someone I’d count on sharing an HEA with.
Instead, I like a guy strong enough to take charge, gentle enough to comfort a lost child, and unaffected enough that he’d scoff at the idea of greasing up his abs and posing. A hero who can laugh at himself and make his woman laugh, too, but one you know will always be at your side when the going gets tough… even if it personally costs him.
I guess this must be why I married a Houston firefighter. (I couldn’t get him to flex a muscle and pose, so Mr. Clooney was kind enough to substitute.) It’s also why, for the hero of my new release, Beneath Bone Lake, I chose Sam McCoy, a convicted hacker willing to trade his freedom for a chance to save the heroine’s missing four-year-old daughter.
Because there’s just something about a guy who rushes into burning buildings while anybody else would run out…
So tell me, what does it for you in a hero? What qualities will make you follow a man anywhere?
June 5, 2009 at 10:20 am
That says it all, really.
But to elaborate: innate decency. An ingrained code of honor. Generosity of spirit. Curiosity and willingness to learn.
June 5, 2009 at 10:27 am
I love your list, Azteclady! Thanks for sharing.
June 5, 2009 at 10:43 am
Quoting here:) Innate decency. An ingrained code of honor. Generosity of spirit….
I loved all of her descriptions, particularly code of honor…it is so noble to see a man rise above the the consensus of others standing around him…your respect escalates, along with your love:)
The picture of George Clooney also shows a side I love to see in a man…gentleness…to watch someone so physically strong, reach out and touch a child, an animal, or the woman he loves with gentleness is beautiful.
Loretta Wheeler
June 5, 2009 at 11:26 am
I like that list too…My real life heroes have shared those qualities. Let me add, I like a guy with a great sense of humor who can laugh at himself.
June 5, 2009 at 2:25 pm
This photo does it for me! What I could do with him!
June 5, 2009 at 4:36 pm
Colleen, I think you nailed it. A hero is significantly more than looking good. While good looks might be the thing that turn your head, to keep me looking, it’s got to be in the personality. As a soldier, I’m surrounded by heroes every day. Those guys and gals that rush into incoming fire to get the wounded or the medic who operates to save a soldier’s life. For me, our soldiers, our firemen and our police are our under appreciated heros. Those are the people we turn to in a crisis and they are our true heroes.
Thanks for posting this. It’s a great subject in a time of superficial focus on celebrity and perfectly unlined faces.
Jess Scott
http://www.jessicascott.net
June 5, 2009 at 4:41 pm
As a soldier deployed to Iraq, I’m surrounded by heroes. The soldier who will run into incoming fire to pull out the wounded, or the medic who applies first aid on the battlefield. The MPs who run convoy escort. All of these things make them heros. When the poo and the fan become intimate, we turn to our policemen, our firemen and our soldiers. Our doctors. And those people are the ones that are truly a gift.
Thanks for posting about such a valuable subject in an age of celebrity and botox’d perfection
Jess Scott
http://www.jessicascott.net
June 5, 2009 at 8:42 pm
The man who “does it for me” strives to do that very thing.
He does it for me! He leads when it is necessary: a calm,
easy-to-be-with provider and caretaker. The rest of the
time he assists and enables my leadership. We haven’t
the space to list all the things I have accomplished with his
aid and support. A strong and stalwart man is my Kenneth,
to whom I have married for forty-eight years.
Pat Cochran
June 5, 2009 at 8:57 pm
Colleen! You are everywhere! I haven’t yet joined PASIC, and was here signing up, and read your blog. I’m with you on heroes. And I always wanted to go out with a fireman! One fantasy that shall remained unfulfilled. But happy to arrive here and find a familiar face–that is yours and George’s!
June 5, 2009 at 9:23 pm
I love that photo, too, Quiltlady!
Pat,
What a beautiful tribute to your Kenneth! Many you have many more happy years! It’s lovely to know that a real hero is forever.
Colleen
June 6, 2009 at 4:55 pm
For me, its the hero that goes with the story. I read a variety of types of heroes and love the variety. I know many mention enjoying alpha heroes but I do love those but too the silent type like you may see in a cowboy, those that are a talkative lover, those who are protective and so on. So I love what the hero makes the story!
I don’t know many actors since I don’t watch much movies or TV but do know of Richard Gere too (another of my favorites with gray hair)…that was a perfect pic up there of George Clooney!
June 12, 2009 at 2:42 pm
Jessica,
Thanks so much for your comments. I checked out your website, and I’m incredibly impressed by the fact that you manage to write while deployed. And the fact that you’re a mom, too – wow. My hat’s off to you, lady. Thanks for your service and for sharing your unique pov.
June 15, 2009 at 8:02 am
Great to see you here, Loretta, June, and Trish! Thanks for the kind words.
You’re going to love PASIC, Trish. And this week, I *do* feel as if I’m everywhere.
Must slow down and write…